Why Did She Break Up With Me?

Believe me, this is a thing I've asked myself many times in the past. It's a serious heart wrenching experience being dumped by the girl of your dreams. Just a few weeks ago everything seemed fine & you had a picture of a beautiful future together with your girl .... now this!

You're alone wondering just what does "I need some space", "We just need some time apart", or "This just isn't working out" exactly mean?

A huge reason she probably broke up with you was because you didn't keep things spontaneous. Maybe you stopped buying her small gifts just because or maybe you did it too much. Maybe you smothered her with the attention that was appreciated in the beginning or maybe not enough. These things when continued through a relationship can make things really predictable which is a fancy word for boring.

It's called getting into the "comfort zone" of a relationship. There is a very fine line between being together and being apart. In the relationship you assumed everything was going to just work out & you would have her heart forever. Sometimes we need a kick in the pants such as being dumped that makes us realize we were either too needy or not there enough for her.

Take a few minutes & pull out the old pen & paper. Draw a line straight down the middle of the page. On the left column write down what you did for her, how you acted towards her & the attention you gave her in the beginning. Go ahead, this blog post isn't going anywhere =)

Did you do it? I'll wait. Okay so I'm assuming you did that now I think you have a good idea of what I'm going to tell you to do now. In the right hand column write down these same scenarios but how they have been recently. I'm asking you to write these & not just think them in your head because seeing thoughts written spurs other thoughts & it's amazing to see the contrast in what you did then & were doing recently.

So now after this short exercise I hope you have a better understanding of how things changed during the course of the relationship. Can you see the area where the "comfort zone" was crossed? I hope so & hope this gave you some insight.

Now that you've done this & have a better understanding of where things got predictable you really need to check out Magic Of Making Up to fill in the missing pieces for your next step.

Peace & Hair Grease,
T- Love