Hey guys you may be making some common mistakes in trying to get your ex-girlfriend back. TW Jackson does a video here of an excellent case study that I wanted to share with you guys because he gives some rock solid advice.
I told you guys this was rock solid advice right! This is just a small sample of the powerful information in T Dubbs ebook The Magic Of Making Up. It's an instant download so go HERE to pick up your copy & be on the way to getting back with your girl tonight!
Peace & hair grease,
T- Love
Friday, February 27, 2009
Tuesday, February 24, 2009
How To Get Back Together Your Ex Girlfriend In 3 Easy Steps
Recently broken up and now wondering "how can I get back together with my ex girlfriend”? You may want to score your ex girlfriend back immediately, and this is a common feeling that everyone experiences after a breakup.
You might find yourself confused, emotionally depressed and wonder what to do now. Your first instinct may be to call her begging her to come back to you. But seriously is this going to make things better? In reality what is probably going to happen is this will strain the situation much more and chase your ex girlfriend away even further.
What you should actually do at this point is the opposite of what you are feeling. Do you feel like calling your ex? Don't! Do you feel like staying inside and moping all day long? Don't! Instead, follow these three basic steps and you will have the answer that you need to the age old question "How do I get back together with my ex girlfriend?"
Step 1 - How to get back with my ex girlfriend: Accept the Break Up!
You need to fully accept that the break up is happening. Tell her that you are okay with it, and allow the "moving on" process to begin. When you do this, it will eliminate a large amount of the tension and stress that is being experienced by both of you. Your ex girlfriend will need time to think about the relationship, and this will give you time as well to consider your options. If your ex girlfriend realizes that she still loves you, she will find a way to get back with you.
Step 2 - How to get back with my ex girlfriend: Do not contact your ex!
Do not make an effort to contact your ex anymore right now. No phone calls, text messages, emails etc. You should cut communication off with her so that there can be some "thinking time" for yourself and more importantly for her. This might seem backwards, but by cutting all communication off you are letting her know that you're already moving on and that you will be fine.
This step is key because it will also allow her to have some time to miss you again. When you can separate yourself from your her and can calm your nerves, that may be the best time to let your ex girlfriend realize how important you were to her.
Step 3 - How to get back with my ex: Plan Ahead for the Get Together
Once you have completed the two steps mentioned just above, you can start working on planning on when and where you should eventually meet. You also need to plan what should be said when you do meet up again. This will allow you to get a better idea of whether or not your ex girlfriend is still in love with you, and also if there is any chance that you and her will ever be together again.
"How to get back with my ex girlfriend?" Can be a little more complicated than the three steps above. Good thing for you my friend is the extra details to getting your ex back can be found in The Magic Of Making Up which is easily downloadable and you can work on getting your ex girlfriend back now.
Peace & hair grease,
T- Love
You might find yourself confused, emotionally depressed and wonder what to do now. Your first instinct may be to call her begging her to come back to you. But seriously is this going to make things better? In reality what is probably going to happen is this will strain the situation much more and chase your ex girlfriend away even further.
What you should actually do at this point is the opposite of what you are feeling. Do you feel like calling your ex? Don't! Do you feel like staying inside and moping all day long? Don't! Instead, follow these three basic steps and you will have the answer that you need to the age old question "How do I get back together with my ex girlfriend?"
Step 1 - How to get back with my ex girlfriend: Accept the Break Up!
You need to fully accept that the break up is happening. Tell her that you are okay with it, and allow the "moving on" process to begin. When you do this, it will eliminate a large amount of the tension and stress that is being experienced by both of you. Your ex girlfriend will need time to think about the relationship, and this will give you time as well to consider your options. If your ex girlfriend realizes that she still loves you, she will find a way to get back with you.
Step 2 - How to get back with my ex girlfriend: Do not contact your ex!
Do not make an effort to contact your ex anymore right now. No phone calls, text messages, emails etc. You should cut communication off with her so that there can be some "thinking time" for yourself and more importantly for her. This might seem backwards, but by cutting all communication off you are letting her know that you're already moving on and that you will be fine.
This step is key because it will also allow her to have some time to miss you again. When you can separate yourself from your her and can calm your nerves, that may be the best time to let your ex girlfriend realize how important you were to her.
Step 3 - How to get back with my ex: Plan Ahead for the Get Together
Once you have completed the two steps mentioned just above, you can start working on planning on when and where you should eventually meet. You also need to plan what should be said when you do meet up again. This will allow you to get a better idea of whether or not your ex girlfriend is still in love with you, and also if there is any chance that you and her will ever be together again.
"How to get back with my ex girlfriend?" Can be a little more complicated than the three steps above. Good thing for you my friend is the extra details to getting your ex back can be found in The Magic Of Making Up which is easily downloadable and you can work on getting your ex girlfriend back now.
Peace & hair grease,
T- Love
Thursday, February 19, 2009
What Do I Have To Do To Get My Ex Girlfriend Back
Most people find themselves asking "What do I have to do to get my ex girlfriend back" following a breakup. They start thinking and analyzing everything that could have been done differently. They even begin to make plans about apology letters and other things that might be able to help them get their girl back.
This tends to be a dead end for one reason above all else: Because you can never really tell what the real reasons were behind a breakup. Women become emotional and sometimes they do not even know what led to the break up at hand and they may not know what is making them feel the way they do. A lot of times it is harmful to use all this energy trying to figure out what really went wrong.
The first main strategy to answer the question about "what do I have to do to get my ex girlfriend back" is to forget about the relationship for a while, putting your energy into something else. Go out, make friends, have fun, network, and forget about women in general. Set some realistic goals about expanding your repertoire when it comes to seduction and social interactions overall.
Give yourself a mater of at LEAST 30 days to even couple of months and make changes in your life. Take some time away from your ex and it will work wonders.
The effect that strategies like this will have, is that it will allow you to make gradual changes in your life. And in how you perceive the subject of relationships. After a few months, you may have a much better idea of how you want to proceed with your ex.
Do you still want to get back together with her? Or are you ready to move on? Act accordingly. If you still want to get back together with her, it might be time to figure out how she is feeling about you.
Now is your chance to be a little more direct when it comes to getting your ex girlfriend back. You need to play strategically, however. Do not under any circumstances beg her to get back with you, because this is not a good time to be emotional. It will 99.9% of the time get you the opposite of your desired effect.
Instead, what you should be doing is playing things cool with your ex. If you have spent enough time apart from her, she is probably missing you as badly as you are missing her. Play hard to get a little (don't over do it) and show her that you are doing fine without her. This is called giving her the gift of missing you. This will totally inspire her to really rethink things.
And if getting back together with your ex really is meant to be, now is the time when it will become apparent. Be careful not to analyze things TOO much, because over analyzing may prevent you from acting the right way when trying to figure out "what do I have to do to get my ex girlfriend back". Just take things slow and play them cool and you will be fine.
Peace & Hair Grease,
T- Love
This tends to be a dead end for one reason above all else: Because you can never really tell what the real reasons were behind a breakup. Women become emotional and sometimes they do not even know what led to the break up at hand and they may not know what is making them feel the way they do. A lot of times it is harmful to use all this energy trying to figure out what really went wrong.
The first main strategy to answer the question about "what do I have to do to get my ex girlfriend back" is to forget about the relationship for a while, putting your energy into something else. Go out, make friends, have fun, network, and forget about women in general. Set some realistic goals about expanding your repertoire when it comes to seduction and social interactions overall.
Give yourself a mater of at LEAST 30 days to even couple of months and make changes in your life. Take some time away from your ex and it will work wonders.
The effect that strategies like this will have, is that it will allow you to make gradual changes in your life. And in how you perceive the subject of relationships. After a few months, you may have a much better idea of how you want to proceed with your ex.
Do you still want to get back together with her? Or are you ready to move on? Act accordingly. If you still want to get back together with her, it might be time to figure out how she is feeling about you.
Now is your chance to be a little more direct when it comes to getting your ex girlfriend back. You need to play strategically, however. Do not under any circumstances beg her to get back with you, because this is not a good time to be emotional. It will 99.9% of the time get you the opposite of your desired effect.
Instead, what you should be doing is playing things cool with your ex. If you have spent enough time apart from her, she is probably missing you as badly as you are missing her. Play hard to get a little (don't over do it) and show her that you are doing fine without her. This is called giving her the gift of missing you. This will totally inspire her to really rethink things.
And if getting back together with your ex really is meant to be, now is the time when it will become apparent. Be careful not to analyze things TOO much, because over analyzing may prevent you from acting the right way when trying to figure out "what do I have to do to get my ex girlfriend back". Just take things slow and play them cool and you will be fine.
Peace & Hair Grease,
T- Love
Wednesday, February 18, 2009
Your Girlfriend Dumped You. Is It Really The Worst Thing In The World?
I know right now it feels like your soul has been squeezed out of you. You don't care about work, eating or even going to the gym anymore. It sucks, trust me I've been there.
You've been a "relationship guy" aka been in a relationship with a girl you loved for months or even years. As it might not seem like there's a bright light at the end of the tunnel there definitely is. This is a time to reflect on yourself & be selfish. Seriously when one door closes a window opens. Life's just funny like that.
By being selfish do I mean be an arrogant prick to yourself & others? Um, NO! I mean do things for yourself now. This is the time to treat yourself to some new stuff or some old stuff you've missed doing while being in the relationship with her just because she didn't like it.
It's a big world bro. Maybe you love(d) Mexican food & she loved pigging out on Chinese food which you managed to develop a taste for. You did it to make her happy. If you gave up something you loved go ahead & splurge yourself in it as long as it isn't a self-destructing bad habit you had.
Eat the foods you haven't in a while, wear the clothes you like for right now, play some games or sports you haven't done in a while. Seriously it's your life & there's no reason you should wallow around in self pity over this break-up.
While doing these things though remember: Keep your good habits up as well as pick up some new good habits such as bathing daily, wearing clean clothes (buying a new outfit & haircut can do wonders for you if even it's just temporary) working out, being productive at work & even spending time with some family & friends you've been meaning to do but haven't gotten around to in a while. Bang a hooker (Okay I'm joking about this one =)
It's your life & this my friend is totally your time to spread your wings & fly! Until next time, have a great day & make this one your best!
Peace & Hair Grease,
T- Love
You've been a "relationship guy" aka been in a relationship with a girl you loved for months or even years. As it might not seem like there's a bright light at the end of the tunnel there definitely is. This is a time to reflect on yourself & be selfish. Seriously when one door closes a window opens. Life's just funny like that.
By being selfish do I mean be an arrogant prick to yourself & others? Um, NO! I mean do things for yourself now. This is the time to treat yourself to some new stuff or some old stuff you've missed doing while being in the relationship with her just because she didn't like it.
It's a big world bro. Maybe you love(d) Mexican food & she loved pigging out on Chinese food which you managed to develop a taste for. You did it to make her happy. If you gave up something you loved go ahead & splurge yourself in it as long as it isn't a self-destructing bad habit you had.
Eat the foods you haven't in a while, wear the clothes you like for right now, play some games or sports you haven't done in a while. Seriously it's your life & there's no reason you should wallow around in self pity over this break-up.
While doing these things though remember: Keep your good habits up as well as pick up some new good habits such as bathing daily, wearing clean clothes (buying a new outfit & haircut can do wonders for you if even it's just temporary) working out, being productive at work & even spending time with some family & friends you've been meaning to do but haven't gotten around to in a while. Bang a hooker (Okay I'm joking about this one =)
It's your life & this my friend is totally your time to spread your wings & fly! Until next time, have a great day & make this one your best!
Peace & Hair Grease,
T- Love
Tuesday, February 17, 2009
Dealing With The Pain Of Breakup
A breakup can be as painful as losing a loved one. Whether you're grieving being dumped by your ex girlfriend or the death of a loved on, the empty feeling of loss is mysteriously very similar. I mean she just put a dagger through your heart so you might as well be dead right? 
WRONG!
While the most important part of dealing w/ the pain of being dumped is time, here are a few more tips to help you through this painful experience during that time. Remember while this experience is not easy it is something you have to work through.
Go out w/ your friends & be social. I know this tough since the break-up is the most PROMINENT thought going through your head right now. Besides, you may have alienated your friends as the relationship became more serious sp this is a great time to catch up with them & realize why they're your friends in the first place. Let loose & have fun, laugh & enjoy yourself as much as you can.
Most adults have gone through a break-up so I'm sure your friends will understand where you're at. They're your friends for a reason & will be there for you. Another thing is you have a lot of pent up feelings & you can talk it through with them & get these things off your chest. Honestly this is the point where they can be honest with you & give you their un-biased thoughts & opinions of your ex.
The time of contact after the break-up should last at least 30 days. While you have the urge to call or text or whatever other contact going through your mind, don't do it during this time. You need to really re-evaluate yourself at this point in time.
You need to find your best self while being alone & with friends. Don't neglect the thought that YOU may come to the conclusion that you both weren't right for each other or even incompatible. If you broke up this is a serious possibility that I'm not going to sugar coat.
A last tid bit of advice my friend is to steer clear of the booze because NO relationships worth being in were re-kindled during a slurred drunken phone call in the middle of the night.
While hanging with your friends is not a be all, end all way to get over a break-up it is a great start. Another resource to get you past this is an amazing e-book you can download & put to use RIGHT now. It's called Magic Of Making Up. Check it out, there's even a few videos on the page to give a better idea of this crucial info to get your Ex-Girlfriend back for good.
Peace & Hair Grease,
T- Love
WRONG!
While the most important part of dealing w/ the pain of being dumped is time, here are a few more tips to help you through this painful experience during that time. Remember while this experience is not easy it is something you have to work through.
Go out w/ your friends & be social. I know this tough since the break-up is the most PROMINENT thought going through your head right now. Besides, you may have alienated your friends as the relationship became more serious sp this is a great time to catch up with them & realize why they're your friends in the first place. Let loose & have fun, laugh & enjoy yourself as much as you can.
Most adults have gone through a break-up so I'm sure your friends will understand where you're at. They're your friends for a reason & will be there for you. Another thing is you have a lot of pent up feelings & you can talk it through with them & get these things off your chest. Honestly this is the point where they can be honest with you & give you their un-biased thoughts & opinions of your ex.
The time of contact after the break-up should last at least 30 days. While you have the urge to call or text or whatever other contact going through your mind, don't do it during this time. You need to really re-evaluate yourself at this point in time.
You need to find your best self while being alone & with friends. Don't neglect the thought that YOU may come to the conclusion that you both weren't right for each other or even incompatible. If you broke up this is a serious possibility that I'm not going to sugar coat.
A last tid bit of advice my friend is to steer clear of the booze because NO relationships worth being in were re-kindled during a slurred drunken phone call in the middle of the night.
While hanging with your friends is not a be all, end all way to get over a break-up it is a great start. Another resource to get you past this is an amazing e-book you can download & put to use RIGHT now. It's called Magic Of Making Up. Check it out, there's even a few videos on the page to give a better idea of this crucial info to get your Ex-Girlfriend back for good.
Peace & Hair Grease,
T- Love
Monday, February 16, 2009
Avoid The Booze After A Breakup
If you're into booze or drugs avoid them by all use after being broken up w/ by your ex.
Here's the most important reasons why:
-They are depressants & you have a million thought swirling through your head right now so no need to multiply them by negativity.
-Them 3AM phone calls to your ex are NOT the way to win back her affection. You often use the words Love & that coming out in slurred drunken speech is highly un-attractive, just think of drunk dials you've received from your ex girlfriend, good grief!
-The hangovers & feeling like crap the next day are not the way to go about your life after break up. This is not the way to move forward in your life to becoming your best self possible.
Also here's a funny video on the History Of The Drunk Dial
Peace & Hair Grease,
T- Love
Here's the most important reasons why:
-They are depressants & you have a million thought swirling through your head right now so no need to multiply them by negativity.
-Them 3AM phone calls to your ex are NOT the way to win back her affection. You often use the words Love & that coming out in slurred drunken speech is highly un-attractive, just think of drunk dials you've received from your ex girlfriend, good grief!
-The hangovers & feeling like crap the next day are not the way to go about your life after break up. This is not the way to move forward in your life to becoming your best self possible.
Peace & Hair Grease,
T- Love
Sunday, February 15, 2009
Why Did She Break Up With Me?
Believe me, this is a thing I've asked myself many times in the past. It's a serious heart wrenching experience being dumped by the girl of your dreams. Just a few weeks ago everything seemed fine & you had a picture of a beautiful future together with your girl .... now this!
You're alone wondering just what does "I need some space", "We just need some time apart", or "This just isn't working out" exactly mean?
A huge reason she probably broke up with you was because you didn't keep things spontaneous. Maybe you stopped buying her small gifts just because or maybe you did it too much. Maybe you smothered her with the attention that was appreciated in the beginning or maybe not enough. These things when continued through a relationship can make things really predictable which is a fancy word for boring.
It's called getting into the "comfort zone" of a relationship. There is a very fine line between being together and being apart. In the relationship you assumed everything was going to just work out & you would have her heart forever. Sometimes we need a kick in the pants such as being dumped that makes us realize we were either too needy or not there enough for her.
Take a few minutes & pull out the old pen & paper. Draw a line straight down the middle of the page. On the left column write down what you did for her, how you acted towards her & the attention you gave her in the beginning. Go ahead, this blog post isn't going anywhere =)
Did you do it? I'll wait. Okay so I'm assuming you did that now I think you have a good idea of what I'm going to tell you to do now. In the right hand column write down these same scenarios but how they have been recently. I'm asking you to write these & not just think them in your head because seeing thoughts written spurs other thoughts & it's amazing to see the contrast in what you did then & were doing recently.
So now after this short exercise I hope you have a better understanding of how things changed during the course of the relationship. Can you see the area where the "comfort zone" was crossed? I hope so & hope this gave you some insight.
Now that you've done this & have a better understanding of where things got predictable you really need to check out Magic Of Making Up to fill in the missing pieces for your next step.
Peace & Hair Grease,
T- Love
You're alone wondering just what does "I need some space", "We just need some time apart", or "This just isn't working out" exactly mean?
A huge reason she probably broke up with you was because you didn't keep things spontaneous. Maybe you stopped buying her small gifts just because or maybe you did it too much. Maybe you smothered her with the attention that was appreciated in the beginning or maybe not enough. These things when continued through a relationship can make things really predictable which is a fancy word for boring.
It's called getting into the "comfort zone" of a relationship. There is a very fine line between being together and being apart. In the relationship you assumed everything was going to just work out & you would have her heart forever. Sometimes we need a kick in the pants such as being dumped that makes us realize we were either too needy or not there enough for her.
Take a few minutes & pull out the old pen & paper. Draw a line straight down the middle of the page. On the left column write down what you did for her, how you acted towards her & the attention you gave her in the beginning. Go ahead, this blog post isn't going anywhere =)
Did you do it? I'll wait. Okay so I'm assuming you did that now I think you have a good idea of what I'm going to tell you to do now. In the right hand column write down these same scenarios but how they have been recently. I'm asking you to write these & not just think them in your head because seeing thoughts written spurs other thoughts & it's amazing to see the contrast in what you did then & were doing recently.
So now after this short exercise I hope you have a better understanding of how things changed during the course of the relationship. Can you see the area where the "comfort zone" was crossed? I hope so & hope this gave you some insight.
Now that you've done this & have a better understanding of where things got predictable you really need to check out Magic Of Making Up to fill in the missing pieces for your next step.
Peace & Hair Grease,
T- Love
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